Today.. a sudden burst of an emotion hit me ... the kind of emotion that is never really easy to say but still you wanna say it.. it may not be love but its when you like a person and you feel like telling them but you cant because of how they may feel about you or afraid of rejection, i cant say i havent been rejected before, because i have and its not the greatest feeling in the world but its also not the end of the world.
So when it hit me today i really wanted to tell her but i couldnt or i think i was afraid of feeling rejected even though i know its not the end of the world yet just as long as she knows how i feel, its never easy to express how you feel for someone even if its just liking them not love. But once the feeling hits the ultimate question just throbs in your mind over and over as it did to me "should i or shouldnt i?"
Ive consulted friends before on a similar subject but all i get is "just tell them, dont be afraid" ... are they in my shoes have they thought about what its like for me or for anyone, maybe it is just me because if they say for me to just do it.. do they just go on and tell the person they like that they like them.
i guess there may be an even harder question for me to answer, when the girl you like asks you how do you feel about them, what do you say if your afraid, is it easy to just act out as if you dont like them or do you tell them because they may give a hint that they like you, do you take the chance? all the time? sometimes? or never? what if someone else comes along before you tell them, your going to feel bad? what do i do?
As i am here writing this i still wonder what i should do, especially now that i think it was the most unexpected person to have the feelings for.
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This feeling is all too familiar to too many people. Ive felt it, and I know friends around me have felt it.
I'm a "live for today" person. Because planning for the future can ruin my fun on treading over the threshold of tomorrow without thinking about consequences, i get fulfillment out of that.
Though, I will not be a hypocrite. I was terrified to tell someone I liked them, and all the "what if" thoughts fill your mind with doubt.
But this could be your personal magic moment, you don't want to miss a moment you have been waiting so long for if your mind and heart disagree with a decision you have made.
I told her how I felt, and before I knew it, we were going out.
For every con in your mind, there is a definite pro in your heart. Do not think that it's ill-fated, that you are destined to fail. This could be the best moment of your life to date. Don't lose sight of something (or someone) that comes your way only once.
There is an opportunity right before your eyes. Take it.
I feel this all the time!!! And alot of the time I fall for people and I really want to tell them, but I just can't because I'm afriad they wil act weird, differently towards me. And I wouldn't want them acting different, because how they act at the moment is why I like them!! BUt I still tell them and risk it. Once I was so scared of rejection that I never told the person. It turned out they liked me back. I found this out later on.
But the day after I was going to tell them (but too scared so I didn't) They went out with my best friend. Total heart break. :'(
If you like someone, TELL THEM!
i love the way you have the guts to write what you feel down, it is a very strong feeling to express, let alone write down on paper.
unfortunately, i am one of theose friends that tells them to go and tell that person how they feel, but i have never had the guts to tell the person, and unfortunately i have lost the person i like to that! it the worst feelin in the world! now i have to deal with the fact that he is with a friend of mine, which isn't that easy.
this is a good thing to get into and it's good that you's guy's can share these things between yourselves!!
neways i enjoyed reading this by james!!
I must say, this is a very intriguing blogspot I've come upon. I’ve basically decided to comment on this topic because I realized that one very important advice was not given.
However, do note, I find that it’s great to hear such positive, true and inspiring shared experiences and advices!
Well, in very simple terms, you must ask yourself what you want in your tomorrows.
We all should live life for the moment, “live life for today” as said by Chris, however, doubts and concerns should never be ignored.
I’ve always lived by, “if you’re not willing to risk it all, then you don’t want it bad enough”.
There should be no need for excuses, reasoning, doubts, backchats or even backing-outs if you truly want that person in your life.
People too often think of the future, and not of their tomorrows.
Though the two may mean the same at times, in this case, there’s a total difference.
The future is how long the relationship lasts, where it goes, how it ends, where it ends, etc. Obviously, this includes the idea of marriage and such and such.
The ‘tomorrows’ I am referring to is, simply, your tomorrow.
Do you want to wake up tomorrow and think of her yet again? Wake up and realize that you still have no clue what to do? Or do you wish tomorrow to be the day she becomes yours? Then there’s the end of tomorrow, ego hurt by rejection, yet heart knowing you tried. Heart knowing there’s no regrets.. or is there?
There’s fear of rejection, then there’s reasons not to. The mind does not battle with the heart for no reason; rather, the mind will always battle with the heart with good intentions.
If there is to be a battle, then it’s due to your mind knowing why you don’t want it bad enough, and the heart knowing nothing at all. This is why we often ask others for answers; however, these answers are hidden beneath the battle. These answers are only found within ourselves.
.. I conclude with this advice: do you want it bad enough?
Are those feelings enough to prove to yourself that you are willing to risk it all?
If so, then think of your tomorrows.
And indeed, don't end up thinking "if only" or "what if I did.."
Don't end up creating a habit of not giving yourself the chance to happiness; even if it does only last for one tomorrow.
Good luck (:
James, firsty having feelings towards the opposite sex, irrepective of the individual of interest is completely normal and is infact healthy encouragement for your mind.
Im not going to bother asking which girl it was, because that shouldnt stop you from appoaching them and expressing how you feel about them.
If at any time you felt pressured to make a decision you might later regret, then keeping that information is probably best kept to yourself. But if you did actually attempt to further a friendship into something more, i can't see who would want to stop you expect yourself and self alone.
Everyday you make decisions. Dont let this decision ruin your day.
Catch, BeZ
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